Everybody gets their fair share of challenges in their lifetime. Hectic and hard times sometimes breed a lot of negative emotions. Some people use these considerably hard challenges life throws at us as an opportunity to learn and to grow into a bigger and better version of themselves. Where as some people
take a different route and inflict their bad moods on others. And if you aren’t careful enough these toxic traits can easily get into your system and destroy your positive thinking mindset. Therefore, knowing how to handle these types of people in the best way possible is crucial for your sake.
THE BELOW MENTIONED POINTS ARE 7 POSITIVE WAYS TO DEAL WITH TOXIC ATTITUDES:
- LET THEM KNOW YOU ARE ALL EARS IF THEY WANT TO TALK.
This act of allowing them to open up to you might show you how distracted and disturbed their minds are. This is one positive way to challenge volatile behavior. It might be possible that this person goes through so much emotions and troubles and that they have nobody to share it with. Try to be the bigger person and stay calm and respond to their angry tantrums with kindness. Let them be free from whatever that is bothering them.
You might just encourage them to put an end to their struggles and come up with a proactive solution.
Since everyone has their own way of dealing with their pain, be kind to them. Be the bigger person and teach them how to channel their pain in a harmless and a productive manner.
Further, everybody battles in silent battles and holds back so many untold thoughts so cut them some slack and be an understanding person.
- WALK AWAY FROM BAD ATTITUDES, IF YOU CAN.
We know this isn’t practical when it comes to workplaces, but try not to be influenced by the coworkers who constantly put out bad vibes. This is more relatable to your relationships. Be it your significant other, friend or family, don’t hesitate to get out of the situation.
In this day and age, everyone goes through tough times, but the never ending complaints and act of putting themselves in the victim mentality constantly reveals much deeper issues. What we mean is that if they can’t go one day without pretending to victimize themselves, you’ve got a bad influence. Of course, some people suffer from chronic depression, anxiety, bipolar disorder, or other mental problems, but this still doesn’t excuse their act of treating you poorly or projecting their feelings onto you.
And if you have taken all the steps you can to help them but if they seem to like to remain in misery, you have to get yourself out of that situation at some point and let them figure their things out. As many quotes on the internet say making everyone happy is not your job; it’s an inside job.
- CREATE SOME “ME TIME” IN YOUR SCHEDULE.
These people with the toxic mentality and bad vibes can drain your energy pretty fast if you have to endure their company for long hours. This might happen at workplace or at home. Therefore ensure that you take time for yourself to recenter yourself and to get rid of the heavy energies so that they don’t fluctuate your energy fields. It’s normal to feel exhausted after dealing with these types of people day in and day out. Recuperation and rest matter, especially in the world we live in today.
- IF YOU CAN KINDLY POINT OUT THAT THEIR BEHAVIOR HURTS OTHERS AROUND THEM.
Some people are very shrewd and they might take advantage of your genuine heart and kindness while unleashing their hostility onto you. Just because they reign in their emotions all day long, don’t let them have a free pass to act that way. Make sure you let them know that you are self aware and that you have boundaries. Let them know that their poor attitude affects everyone around them, and you won’t tolerate it any longer after they cross your boundaries.
No one should have to consistently deal with annoying,manipulative, or brash behavior. It is wise to nip it in the bud before it evolves into a bigger problem or else people might think that they can get away with it. Maybe this will get them to change their tune so others will want to be around them more.
- HOW PEOPLE TREAT YOU IS THEIR KARMA.
Sometimes, you just have to keep in mind the laws of the universe, and that negative people will have to face the consequences of their behavior. Everything always comes back full circle, so just remember to treat them with love and compassion, because you have control of your own karma. Others may not be aware of these “divine laws”, or they may not care, but this remains constant: ultimately, how others treat you is out of your hands, so just sit back and watch the universe respond accordingly.
Even though you cannot see it through human eyes, the laws of universe are functioning well. So the toxic and negative people will have to face the consequences of their behavior. So anything negative or bad they do will affect their karma and being compassionate and understanding will come back to you . Others may not be aware of these “divine laws”, or they might choose not to care, but this remains constant. How others treat you is out of your hands, so just sit back and watch the universe respond accordingly. Just remember to be kind.
- DO SOMETHING TO MAKE THEIR DAY BETTER.
You can either sit there and watch someone struggle or offer to help them up. You always have a choice in the moment, so choose kindness. Choose compassion. Bring them some food on their lunch break if they have piles of work to finish and you know they can’t leave, bake them some cookies and leave them on their desk, or make them a homemade crafty gift to show you care.
What would you rather do, watch someone struggle or offer to help them up. Since we have an option almost all the times. Make sure you select the humane option. The option to be kind and understanding. This might be the most trivial thing you could do. Be it sharing some lunch, some baked goodies or a little note. It’ll show them you care and it’ll mean a lot to them.
This world could use more acts of kindness, and a lot of people are hurting right now. So its high time to be that person that lifts others up even if they always bring you down. This might even encourage them to start looking on the brighter side of life.
- SMILE. ?
How can someone possibly keep spouting off negative vibes when you meet that energy with a smile? It will immediately put them in a better place of perspective, and remind them that this world still has good people left. Maybe they have a very negative home life and don’t have a lot of emotional support. Maybe they feel neglected or unloved, so spread your love with your smiles. It will even uplift your own mood, and help others around you.
Well it’ll be impossible for the negative complainers to spout off bad vibes when you keep smiling and meeting that energy with a smile. It will make them feel good and safe even for a fraction of a second. But it’ll be worth it. They’ll be reminded that the world isn’t that bad and that there are good people in the world. They might be having family problems , a weak support system, academic problems and whatnot. Therefore, help them feel good by at least by doing the bare minimum ; smiling. It will even uplift your own mood, and help others around you.
Some little things aren’t just little things. They have a great influence. A simple, small act of smiling can mean a lot to someone who’s struggling. You never know. So think of yourself as a super hero and that your super power is your smile. Don’t hesitate to use it abundantly because you’ll be easing someone’s stresses without you even knowing it.