You don’t attract what you want. You attract what you are. – Dr. Wayne Dyer
We attract the society for the intelligence, looks, humor, etc. Human beings are in a competition and they wired to search for certain attributes in someone else when determining who we invite into our lives.
We all call attraction a gut feeling or intuition, but we know it when we feel it. Attraction is a complex thing. It can be intimate or platonic; physical or emotional; rational or irrational. Some of us are attracted to people that ultimately end up hurting us, something that is complicating and inexplicably inviting at the same time. Some of us are attracted to people that imitate our values, aspirations and purpose. Some of our inclinations and thoughts evolve, including what makes someone attractive or unattractive.
There are some behaviors that tend to attract more people. Most of us would agree that spending time with someone that is negative and pessimistic is not something we’d enjoy. We’re repelled by these types of behaviors, which are unattractive, to say the least. On the other hand, we appreciate the people in our lives that display genuinely positive behaviors and actions. This made us think about the topic of what makes for an attractive personality.
1. Sense of humor
This can be difficult at times too. Our lives are becoming more and more complicated. We’re faced with various challenges that test even the strongest among us. As such, the ability to ease up and laugh once in a while is an important attribute. This laughter can be directed towards others or ourselves, as long as there are good intentions behind such actions. Anyway a sense of humor is incredibly attractive. Who wants to be so serious all the time?
2. Love for life
Passion generates purpose, which in turn breeds direction and enthusiasm. To say that life is nothing without a passionate outlook is not an overstatement – we all need something to live for, even struggle for.
Passion is attractive because it’s often selfless. We can navigate the atrocity of life when we deeply believe in a purpose – be it friends, family, love, work or something else. When we love our life it makes us see the positive and happy side of every situation.
3. Decision-making ability
Decisiveness is attractive and a unique ability because it shows a sense of direction. This attribute is perhaps most attractive in a potential mate, as the ability to make a difficult decision is something that will ultimately come about. Rashness, on the other hand, is not attractive. Rational decisiveness is an attractive and increasingly uncommon trait to find in someone else.
4. Loving Kindness
We love to be around people that are kind towards others. For many of us, not only is it an attraction, but a requirement. This means being kind to strangers and friends alike. Showing empathy and displaying random acts of kindness is what it means to be a good human being. And it leads us to be an extra highly attractive character!
5. An open mind
Closed-mindedness is a sign of mystery something that most of us don’t accept. It creates a cleavage and a division between people. An open mind can resolve many of these divisions, if only we’d be willing to more widely examine the notion as a society.
6. Displaying confidence
This can be hard. Most of us have doubts, insecurities, but some are able to focus on the things that make them a good person. Further, we want to be around people that have confidence in themselves, as they’re often able to make even the most insecure person comfortable. Confidence is not only attractive, it’s contagious. It makes you and people around you stronger and let others gather around you.
7. Accepting of others
A person who is honestly down-to-earth builds trust within others’ hearts. She is simple, straight forward and flexible. And caring. So others love to communicate with them as they build confidence in others.
Many of the world’s problems today can be attributed to one thing: the inability to accept people for who they are. How many conflicts are going on right now because of the unwillingness of one group of people to simply accept another group? Needless to say, those that are accepting of others have a tendency to attract those of the same ilk. When someone is accepting of others, they’re more likely to display love towards others.