Do you find yourself surrounded by people who are emotionally dumb?
Emotional maturity isn’t quite the same thing as standard maturity. Instead, it specifically refers to one’s ability to manage negative and stressful situations without causing unnecessary rising.
Emotionally mature people also tend to have healthy, positive relationships with others, and they tend to be happier overall. So how can we find this type of personality?
1 – They Know What They Are And What They Want
To be emotionally mature, one must be aware of their feelings, needs, and thoughts. Here’s how emotionally mature people can do this with ease:
- They Recognize Needs And Feelings
It’s easy to close yourself off when you feel negative emotions. But you should release those unwanted thoughts meaningfully from you instead they will explode later.
- They Put Things In Perspective
Emotionally mature people know the value of them, and they regularly check themselves and shift their perspectives to realize they’re lucky compared to everyone else. Of course, suffering and sadness are not competitions, and no matter how “good” your situation, you are allowed to be upset when things go wrong. But it can also help to remember all the good things in one’s life when dealing with strong feelings.
- They Don’t Take Things Personally
These people know that the reason for every hardship does not rely on them. Emotionally mature people never fall into the habit of thinking that the world is out to get them. Their egos aren’t so vast as to believe the world revolves around them!
- They Don’t Make Things Personal, Either
They think twice when things go wrong. When an emotionally mature person runs into conflict, they don’t jump into a defensive mode where they take everything as a personal attack. They put aside their pride and communicate with honesty and empathy, to solve the problem well.
- They Don’t Make Their Boss Out Of Their Emotions
They can keep those emotions from running the match when someone is aware of how they feel. Instead those emotions will make you depressed.
2 – They Are Positive And Realistic
Optimism is beneficial in everyday life, and emotionally mature people tend to favor positive thinking. They’re bright and happy lots of the time, which makes them enjoyable to be around, and they don’t let anything get them down for very long.
And also they’re realistic about the situations that they’re in and see them precisely. Still, they use positive thinking to focus on the right sides, or on how to work towards solving problems and improving situations. They don’t get stuck in their sadness! Instead, emotionally mature people:
- Keep them grounded in reality, with their heads tilted to the sun
- Understand that life cannot be anything but positive or negative occurrences, but balances of both
- Look forward to the future, prepared for the good times and for the challenges that will undoubtedly arise
- Are intent on making the best out of bad situations and finding the silver linings in every troubling time
- Assume the best of those around them, barring those who have proven themselves untrustworthy before
3 – They Are Open-Minded
An emotionally mature person is flexible and open-hearted because that one knows that their views are not the be-all and end-all of truth. They stay flexible and are always open to hearing new ideas and opinions. Research has shown that open-minded individuals are often happier overall, with better positive thinking as well as improved conflict management skills. If that sounds like something you’d like to be a part of your life, then emotional maturity is the solution.
Of course, there’s a limit to open-mindedness. We’re not saying that emotionally mature people tolerate those who are intolerant, for example. But even in those situations, they maintain a degree of curiosity. They aim to understand the causes behind these points of view so that they can better speak for or against them. They naturally feel thankful for small things in their everyday life.
4 – They Ask Before They Speak
Usually talkative people with ominous mouths are not emotionally mature. On the other hand, an emotionally mature person listens and observes before reacting. They always think before speaking or acting, gathering context clues and facts from people’s speech and the environment before making a carefully considered move. They control their impulses, which prevent any emotional outbursts.
On top of that, emotionally mature people don’t listen to add their points in – they try to understand and to relate. The fact that listening is twice as complicated as the act of speaking is one of the reasons why many individuals don’t successfully perform this positive trait.
5 – They Are Honest
They are also emotionally honest, when someone is emotionally mature. They have no trouble being in touch with their feelings, and they are therefore able to understand themselves and be honest about their sincere thoughts. They also see that others appreciate honesty from them and that honesty is crucial for effective, positive communication.
Here are some ways emotionally mature people are honest:
An emotionally mature person wants to work with nothing but the truth, even if that truth hurts. As such, they are honest with others and themselves, working with facts. They also expect honesty from others, so they have an open mind to listen to all sorts of feedback and information.
An emotionally mature person is dear. They do not feel the need to pretend to be someone they are not. They don’t wear masks. Indeed, they show their true selves and are proud of their own identities.
Don’t be afraid to reach out for assistance, whether of a physical or emotional kind. People will appreciate that you’re open to them!
- No Lies
They never lower their heads for liars. It is true that they can see through lies.
An emotionally mature person has learned to overcome that fear. They are comfortable with their good and bad sides and they aren’t afraid of being open about their lives and who they are. They can be real with you and build trust with those around them by opening up.
6 – They Take Responsibility When They Are Wrong
When someone lacks emotional maturity, they may be unable to accept when they are wrong and take responsibility for whatever they caused or whatever has happened. Someone who lacks that maturity may:
- Jump into a defensive mode
- Deflect blame
- Point fingers
- Make excuses
- Focus on protecting their egos
Here are some ways that those who have become emotionally mature react to their mistakes:
If someone suggests they’ve done something wrong, an emotionally mature person considers the subject seriously. They will offer a polite apology. They don’t feel a supreme need to be right all the time that often plagues the less mature, so they don’t waste their time trying desperately to be believed.
Sometimes, emotionally mature individuals notice far ahead of time when their actions are less than savory. They have a level of self-awareness that allows them to see and admit fault quickly, so they can acknowledge the issue and promptly make up for it in a positive way.
Emotionally mature individuals never blame others for their problems. They don’t blame traffic or the weather, they don’t blame the people around them, and they don’t even blame those who are also partially responsible. They hold themselves accountable and take ownership of their wrongdoings, no matter how minor.
Unless an explanation is warranted, or if there’s been a misunderstanding, an emotionally mature person never uses reasons as a crutch. They know that it doesn’t matter why they did something wrong – all that matters is that they did it in the first place.
Emotionally mature people know that they have innate preferences and those them, as human beings, can be irrational and imperfect. Prejudices are often internalized and can be challenging to break. So mature people keep these in mind when interacting with others.
These behaviors that reveal emotionally mature people are ones that you can slowly incorporate into your everyday life. Though at first, it may be difficult, you will gradually become more perfect at them. Sometimes you may not be able to understand these people! But soon you will get adopted with them!